What is Radical Wholeness?
Short Answer
* Liberated from the hurt and limiting beliefs of the past
* Authentically and joyfully engaged in the present with a quiet mind and open heart
* Having a purposeful and compelling future to live into
More Complete Answer
Radical Wholeness is a liberated state of emotional and spiritual well-being that goes beyond the ego. It's an undivided life filled with peace, passion, purpose, power and presence. It’s a fully integrated way of living with mind, heart, will and soul all working in concert with Spirit for a higher purpose that serves life. It’s an inner state of being where no part of you is in conflict with any other part of you or the world. It's an inner union of Spirit and soul, masculine and feminine, and individual uniqueness with Universal Oneness. It is a way of living where you are fully alive and present to the real world.
Radical Wholeness is about moving beyond the ego's need to either suppress or impress and towards the soul (or essence) simple desire to connect and express. It's an experience and awareness, deep in your bones, that you are both deeply at peace and radically alive. You have both an expanded and intimate relationship with the Universe as well as a deep and sensual relationship with Life. You are fulfilling your unique purpose in life while knowing that their is nothing that you are required to do in order to be Whole. You have a felt sense of both depth (soul or essence) and expansion (spirit or authentic expression) You notice an ever deepening connection with your soul and expansion of your spirit - the BLISS of your own BEING.
Each of us possesses a CORE WOUND that is calling to be healed and a CORE PURPOSE that is calling to be fulfilled. Living a life of Radical Wholeness begins with healing the past and learning to express our authentic gifts for a unique purpose in the present.
My personal experience of beginning to live this life of Radical Wholeness is more peace, passion, purpose, power and presence accompanied by moments of extreme bliss with along with a slightly broken heart from all the suffering and separation in the world.
Six Main Principles of Radical Wholeness
1. Feel it all as deeply and fully as you are able.
When we can feel our feelings of sadness without the sadness overwhelming us, our heart opens to a greater, deeper and more expanded joy. When we can fully experience our fear without the fear overtaking us, we connect with a greater, deeper and more expanded since of peace. When we can learn to acknowledge and consciously express our anger without the anger being destructive or overtaking us we experience a greater, deeper and more expanded since of our authentic power.
2. Question everything with a sincere heart, particularly the beliefs that you've accepted about yourself, others and the world to live a life beyond belief. Literally, beyond the limiting beliefs we inherited, or adopted early in life when creating a self-image.
Our thoughts are not a reliable source for interpreting what is true - about ourselves, others or reality. However, our ability to question everything, all the way to love and truth, is our minds most valuable resource on your path towards Radical Wholeness.
3. Resist nothing.
“What ever we resist persists. Yet whatever we have the courage to fully face, feel and embrace becomes grace!"
When we can find a way to stop resisting and fully accept even the most unacceptable parts of ourselves, our "inner critic" and mind chatter becomes dramatically quieter. We then begin to find ourselves miraculously able to not only accept ourselves and others more fully but to see, sense and feel the Divinity in ourselves, others and even what we once perceived as the most unacceptable aspects of life. This is the essence of the Radical Wholeness Process.
4. Embrace the reality of uncertainty.
The ancient Greek philosopher Heraclitus stated “there is nothing permanent but change.” Whenever we argue with reality, reality always wins. Reality is our ultimate Guru. When we able to honestly observe and accept the reality that there is nothing permanent but change, we can begin to accept the impermanence of all life and be creatively and fully alive in the present.
When we fully embrace the reality of uncertainty from the depth of our being, our attention naturally turns toward the preciousness of all of life. Our heart is set on fire to express our unique individual gifts in the world for a purpose that we feel is a mighty one and is in service to life and the conscious evolution of our planet. In living this way, there are no ordinary moments!
5. Know that your Authentic Self is much more than your separate ego self.
Know that in your true nature- your deepest self you are more than your separate ego. In your Essence, you are a uniquely authentic part of the whole-the whole of life, not separate from but connected to and unique expression of the whole.
6. Discover the one TRUE gift your life has uniquely equipped you to live. Then -- deliver this gift for a purpose that contributes to the healing and conscious evolution of our planet.
Life has entrusted each of us with a unique set of strengths and gifts. It is our soul purpose to be good stewards of the gifts that we've been given. How? By combing these gifts with our life circumstances, including all our victories and defeats, pain and challenges overcome to discover and live out our unique life story and fulfill the unique purpose that only we can. If we don't discover it and contribute it in our lifetime, the world will never have it.
Radical Embrace
Radical Embrace is the courage and willingness to feel life fully and embrace all of our emotional responses including the uncomfortable ones. Unfelt feelings never die or go away. These un-integrated feelings are the source of our deepest pain and feelings of separateness. Feeling is healing. Whatever we resist persists. Whatever we have the courage to fully feel, face and embrace becomes grace.
Radical Responsibility
Radical Responsibility is the ability to respond creatively, resourcefully and wholly to any situation that life gives us. It recognizes that we have the power and ability to choose how we respond to any situation life gives us rather than react from past programming. The results of our actions reflect our true intentions. The highest form of human intelligence is the ability to observe without judgment or reaction.
Conscious Drama
Some of us had chaotic childhood home environments. Even though we probably experienced these things as negative and possibly traumatic, they were also stimulating and produced a survival response within us along with a hyper-alert state of awareness. Interestingly, our nervous system adapted to the fear and excitement. If we grew up in a home with unconscious drama we will tend to recreate it in our adult lives.
If we do not consciously create and choose our drama for ourselves, our programmed need for drama will unconsciously choose for us. Conscious Drama is the ability to choose to act from our higher selves, aware of our need for stimulation and create positive situations to fill this need.
Radical Authenticity
Every thought and feeling that we have time wants to and deserves to be acknowledged compassionately and curiously within ourselves.
Radical Authenticity recognizes that there are different parts within each of us and gives each part a voice to be heard without judgment. Anything withheld from fear is fear, and is ultimately destructive. With Radical Authenticity, we learn to listen to all of our parts and accept the lessons they teach.
Radical Gratitude
Human beings cannot be in a state of appreciation and a state of depression, sadness or anger or contracted emotions at the same moment in time. To live in a state of gratitude you must say 'thank you" often, show sincere appreciation wherever you can and feel genuine gratitude for what you have. Radical Gratitude is the willingness to choose to see the miracle of life and our participation in it as a privilege and adventure. Albert Einstein said, “Nothing in the universe is a miracle or everything is. I choose the latter.”
Radical Transcendence
As we live from Spirit or Essence, we gradually end the trance of repeating our unhealthy behavior patterns. I call this "trance - endence" because we end the trances we have been living by recognizing the pay offs that we get from indulging in those patterns. We see how continuing these patterns help us in avoid responsibility for the power and freedom that we have as adults.
Radical Purpose
Each of us has a unique and sacred purpose. This is something that can only be contributed to the world, in our unique way by us. If we don't share it, the world will never have it. Our Radical Purpose is discovered within of our individual self where our unique gifts and passions intersect with the needs of the world, and somehow resonate with our individual life challenges.
Radical Presence
Being in a state of appreciation for what is so and what is being asked of us by life is Radical Presence. This state of being is felt when we can accept and appreciate our current circumstances without any personal agenda, while giving up any need to feel safe, understood, right, powerful, in control, loved, appreciated, wise, insightful or spiritual.
Radical Faith
The deeper our authentic faith, the less we need organized belief systems to inform us about what is right and wrong, or tell us how we should be or not be in order to feel safe. The more we grasp on to a particular religious ideal the less faith that we actually have.
Radical Faith arises spontaneously as a radiant essence inside us that knows its intimate connection with Spirit. This becomes our reality when we have the courage to meet life fully and feel the truth of our uncertainty as well as our possibility. To have Whole Faith is to dance with life in love rather than march through life in fear.
Conscious Ignorance
There is wisdom to what I refer to as Conscious Ignorance that recognizes an ever-evolving Universe. While informed by the ancient wisdom of sacred scriptures as well as the latest scientific knowledge, Conscious Ignorance recognizes the contamination of our recorded history by the personal and power-based agendas. We cannot know something is true based on what others tell us. We must seek our own personal truth. And we can declare nothing as truth without it being validated by our own personal experience.
